Are you scared of getting old?!

An inspiring read! But then I’m fortunate in that most women I know are positive in outlook and strong (in spirit if not in body). I think that being a mother is fabulous training for one’s older years – the commitment to a child’s physical, mental and social development generates a self-sufficiency and drive which can only be a strength in one’s own latter years. For those who have not had their own children, it may be more of a challenge to be so outgoing and independent in later life, but I have found that many women I know in this category get their drive from focusing on, and creating for themselves, other paths and opportunities in life. This can result in a marked distinction between the way women age and the way men age. Of course, I recognize that what I’ve said above is very much a generality – and in particular one can’t underestimate the toll of life events – when even the strongest person can be brought low by circumstances. I used to be sceptical of the phrase “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”, but having lived through my son becoming disabled, two divorces, and losing a home I loved – maybe there’s some truth in it. Certainly, despite the various slips and falls I’ve had along my way up till now, I don’t in any way feel depressed, victimised or pessimistic. I am thoroughly enjoying the freedom of retirement and everything if offers. At 65, with the knowledge that I have some good genes (my mother is 95 and still fully functional!) I foresee another phase in my life lasting perhaps 30 years – and realise it’s a good time now to lay foundations for that phase to be creative, satisfying and fun.